This thought often runs into my mind. And am sure it does for most of us. Some may say money makes one happy. Others may say the passion to do something or achieve something may make one happy.And then there are other for whom 'happy hours' make them happy :).
I have seen people, who are always trying to get what the others have. That makes them happy. To think that they are probably equal to others if not better than them.Infact I am probably one of them. Most of us probably wouldn't agree that this is right or that this is true happiness. But one has to agree that at some point or the other in our lives, we all have done that. To achieve or acquire or do things that others have done. And feel happy that they are no lesser than others now. You maybe thinking 'C'mon! Why would I do that.I am happy the way I am'. You probably don't even remember it now, but as a child you would have definitely thought of having the toy that your play mate has. And would have cried your heart out, untill your parents got you that same toy. Okay, maybe we can ignore that. Cause we were kids then, and so did not really know what we were doing. But you surely cannot disagree on the fact that in our adult lives, we live ,socialise, shop, travel and enterain in the manner that the others do. The 'cool' car or the latest mobile that we use, is all part of this human behavior that i'd like to call I-want-to-be-normal behaviour. Nobody likes to be alone and left out of the 'group', and very few of us like to be 'different'. So we all tend to do things that most of us would do, to follow the path that most of us have followed. And so we live in an illusion, that probably having a big house will make me successfull and so will make me happy. We brainwash ourselves in believing that by achieveing all that the so called 'the most successfull' people have achieved would make us happy. And then there are few who are probably configured the other way by God or nature and so choose to take a different route. And create a mark of their own. And the majority others (like myself) start to follow what such 'different' people did. For whatever reasons, whether to do something that somebody famous did. Or with a thought that, if it worked for them, am sure it will work for me as well. And then we forget that ,it maynot really work for us after all. Cause if it did, we wouldn't have had so many cultures, so many different languages, so many different ways to cook and eat an egg. And so most of us 'normal' people oblivious to this simple fact end up being caught up in a never ending search for normalcy, search for inner peace and search for inner happiness. The true happiness! I am one of those who is bitten by this bug as well. So I cannot say what one can do to stay away from such behaviour and being satisfied with 'fake' happiness. Maybe someday I will also go to an ashram and be able to achieve Nirvana. But until then ill just have to be as 'different' as the society can allow and as 'normal' as I can be.
