Mothers today

Todays newspaper carried two articles- one on how first 6 years of a child's life are important and the other about how to deal with 'difficult' mother. The second article really surprised me as I never had imagined anyone would write a book/article telling adults on how they should deal with their mothers. I also never thought anyone would categorise mothers into various types. This particular article broadly categorised mothers as being 'good enough' or 'difficult'. Now Good enough is not something that is associated with being a mother, but the author claims that many cultures and society unecessarily Expect mothers to be perfect. Which in a way makes mothers do things for their children in a way that she thinks is right for her child rather than what the child really wants. This is primarily based on what the society expects of her. I know I have started noticing articles on such topics off late as now I can relate to them better. But I wonder if such articles or discussion ever would take place when our parents were raising us. I doubt the answer is yes to that. In fact did our parents really think in such detail about parenting like the way we do. I don't intend to say that they didn't care enough for us but they just didn't know any better at the time. I am sure our parents consider us lucky to have access to so much of information making parenting easier. But are we really that lucky? Or would we be better off in the ignorant bliss? The two articles in today's paper made me wonder just that. It's good that so much is being researched and written about better ways of parenting. But probably somewhere it's also confusing us even further and at times affecting our judgement. Only time will tell what kind of mother I will turn out to be but I hope I am not a 'difficult' one :P

Now I am really one of them!

I used to wonder ( and laugh)why all mothers just can't seem to think beyond their babies, now I am one of them! I also would wonder why mothers are always so emotional and over protective, now I am one them! I coundnt understand why new mothers found it so difficult to come back to office, often deciding to quit work instead, now I am one of them (well almost, I haven't quit work. Not yet atleast). I have read and heard this a hundred times that mothers are amazing at multi tasking, although am bad at it but now I am one of them. I used to observe my mother and other aunts in the house waking up early in the morning, now I am one of them. It's a mixed feeling about day by day becoming the person I never thought I would Be or that I could be, because mother's job is a thankless job after all. And so I myself never considered it any great that my mother was doing so much for me and now I am exactly in the same position. Now ofcourse I appreciate her a lot more and would have loved her more if she were around. But I hope and pray that I do not pass on my fears to my daughter and that I provide the best environment I can for her to grow into the best and happy individual she can be. Love you R. Love you mom and miss you lot.